The Changing face of Marriage and Extramarital Relationships

Examines the purpose of marriage in North America, once understood in the context of institution, now understood as companionship. Asserts that married partners now value “extra” relationships when they exclude sexual involvement. Cites research findings which document significant rates of extramarital sexual involvement. Explores the conflict between attitudes disapproving extramarital sexual relationships and actions involving extramarital sexual relationships. Discusses current research and theory about extramarital relationships and the necessity for reviewing commitments in the context of this change and conflict. Suggests a framework for pastoral counselors with particular attention to issues of commitment.