This article examines intradyadic sources of conflict that end friendships in Russia and the United States. Based on a survey of students at comparable universities in the two countries, it was found that Russians rated most, but not all, of a series of vignettes as more likely to end a friendship than Americans. The situation most likely to end a Russian friendship was a betrayal of confidence, but keeping secrets from a friend was more likely to end American friendships. Russian participants also reported that betrayals of confidence were the most frequent source of conflict ending prior friendships. Gender differences in responses to the vignettes are also described. Several explanations for these patterns are offered, and the need for additional research on the processes of friendship development and dissolution in the two countries is noted.
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