Developing parenthood through giving birth to a dead child – bereaved lesbian mothers’ maternity care experiences in Scandinavia

This phenomenological study uses in-depth interviews to explore how six lesbian couples experience the loss of a child in the perinatal period. Our findings revealed the importance of developing queer parenthood through a meaningful birthing space facilitated by a midwife and enabling time and space to recognize love and beauty in the couple’s grief. Suboptimal maternity care or insensitive comments related to their lesbian status complicated the loss, while care providers’ acknowledgement and sensitivity to the specific needs of queer couples enabled them to be present in the moment and recognize and process their loss.