Virtual Relational Curation: The Role of Attachment and Virtual Possession Management on Post-Breakup Adjustment

Abstract

This study extends the Virtual Relational Memory model (VRM) to examine the intersection of communication technology, attachment orientation, and post-breakup adjustment. Prior research linked the retaining of virtual possessions to a decline in post-breakup adjustment, and this study investigates the role of avoidant and anxious attachment orientation. Using United States collegiate students, participants (N = 357) completed an online questionnaire regarding their attachment orientation, ideals regarding their handling of their virtual possessions post-breakup, and post-breakup adjustment. Findings reveal that anxious attachment predicts making decisions based on past partners, which negatively relates to adjustment. Similarly, avoidant attachment predicts making decisions based on the emotional impact of the virtual possessions, which also negatively relates to post-breakup adjustment. This study’s implications underscore the significance of attachment orientation in guiding individuals through managing the virtual possessions of past relationships.

Keywords

virtual possessions attachment orientations breakups relational curation adjustment virtual relationship memory

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